RELATOR 
Relator describes your attitude toward your relationships. In simple terms, the Rela- tor theme pulls you toward people you already know. You do not necessarily shy away from meeting new people-in fact, you may have other themes that cause you to enjoy the thrill of turning strangers into friends-but you do derive a great deal of pleasure and strength from being around your close friends. You are comfortable with intimacy. Once the initial connection has been made, you deliberately encour- age a deepening of the relationship. You want to understand their feelings, their goals, their fears, and their dreams; and you want them to understand yours. You know that this kind of closeness implies a certain amount of risk-you might be taken advantage of-but you are willing to accept that risk. For you a relationship has value only if it is genuine. And the only way to know that is to entrust yourself to the other person. The more you share with each other, the more you risk together. The more you risk together, the more each of you proves your caring is genuine. These are your steps toward real friendship, and you take them willingly. 

Relator sounds like this: 
Tony D., pilot: "I used to fly in the Marines, and, boy, you had better be comfort- able with the word 'friend' in the Marines. You had better feel good about trusting someone else. I can't teil you how many times I put my life in someone else's hands. I was flying off his wing, and I'd be dead if my friend couldn't get me back safely." 
Jamie T., entrepreneur: "I'm definitely selective about my relationships. Ini- tially, when I first meet people, I don't want to give them very much of my time. I don't know them, they don't know me, so let's just be pleasant and leave it at that. But if circumstances make it so that we get to know each other better, it seems like a threshold is reached where I suddenly start wanting to invest more. I'll share more of myself, put myself out for them, do things for them that will bring us a little closer to- gether and show that I care. It's funny because I am not looking for any more friends in my life. I have enough. And yet with each new person I meet, as soon as that threshold is reached, I feel compelled to go deeper and deeper. Now I have ten peo;; pIe working for me, and I would call each of them my very good friend." 
Gavin T., flight attendant: "I have many wonderful acquaintances, but as for true friends that I hold dear, not very many. And I'm real okay with that. My best times are spent with the people I'm tightest with, like my family. We are a very tight-knit Irish Catholic family, and we get together every chance we can. It's a large familY-f I have five brothers and sisters and ten nieces and nephews-but we all get togethe~ about once a month and yuk it up. I'm the catalyst. When I'm back in Chicago, eve~ if there is no birthday or anniversary or whatever, I become the excuse for getting together and hanging out for three or four days. We really enjoy one another'~ 
company." !